While a new report from the Pew Research Center finds that more moms are staying at home full time with their kids, the revelation was not a surprise to the many SAHMs (stay at home moms) who are part of the TODAY Moms Facebook community.
TODAY Moms asked those moms to share the path they took to becoming SAHMs and describe both the joys and challenges that come with it. (And some working moms also weighed in.) In their stories, they reflect much of what the report found: that the increase in SAHMs is driven by a mix of demographic, economic and societal factors; that some moms, especially married SAHMs, are home by choice, while a growing number (6 percent in 2012, compared with 1 percent in 2000) say they are home because they can’t find a job. And that others cite issues such as the crazy cost of childcare or the need to stay home because of their own or their child’s disability.
Here, 10 SAHMs tell their stories via TODAY Moms on Facebook: Sometime jobs don’t work out; fortunately, being a SAHM has worked.
Christina Probeyahn: “Being laid off from a flexible job and not being able to find a comparable replacement, plus having triplets, plus the cost of daycare for said triplets led me to be a SAHM. Financially challenging sometimes but I love being home with my boys!”
Jamie Hermesch: “I was working as a paraprofessional at our small-town elementary school. And last year when the school was forced with the decision to either give all of the para’s health insurance or cut our hours — I decided to stay home with our newborn son. Best decision of our lives.”
Catie Kelley: “I became a stay at home mom involuntarily. I was in labor when I received a call from HR saying that there was a job loss situation affecting my department… I immediately texted coworkers and found out that our department was being closed in 90 days. I returned to work after maternity leave for 2 business days and was sent home with the rest of my department. I have learned to live on less and don’t regret a thing…”