Pregnant women are a marketing team’s dream. We are worried, stressed, and want everything perfect for when our bundle of joy arrives. We obviously do not want to have our babies go without, and sales teams know that. There are “perfect” registries and suggestion lists on every site that sells baby items because these companies want to be “helpful” to expectant mothers. After a few months with the the baby though, we tend to realize some of these products are just completely useless and need the “must haves” we thought they were.
During pregnancy, it is safe to say that our judgment is a little clouded. How could it not be? We are preparing to take on the responsibility of another life and a whole new role. We can have this vision of what we want for our bundle of joy, but we likely need to find a happy medium between the rainbow land with baskets of kittens that we would like to provide for our children. Our hormones seem to greatly impact our emotions and our rational decision making because we don’t usually cry about someone taking our parking space at the mall or the fact that our favorite bagel is sold out. Is this really the best time to make serious, life-altering, or expensive choices?
Babies are amazing and life-changing, but no matter how prepared we feel we just aren’t. There is no way to prepare for the impact one teeny, tiny person will have on our entire life. They don’t come with a how-to book, and there is no one size fits all theory to apply to babies!
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15 Electric Blankets
We get it, it’s winter, and we’re cold. A heated blanket sounds so wonderful. It would keep us warm. It might even help the fact that every muscle in our body is so sore from pregnancy aches and pains. Don’t do it. Do not use a heated blanket during pregnancy. It is under similar cautions as a hot tub or taking a bath that is too warm. It can actually be dangerous to our baby.
We put our baby at risk when we raise our body temperatures which can often be an effect of using an electric blanket. We forget to turn it off. We don’t realize that our body temperature is rising. No one actually plans to harm their unborn baby, but electric blankets are just something that we need to avoid.
14 Your Own Hospital Gown
We have all seen those cute lists on Pinterest where women recommend getting a personal hospital gown because honestly they are adorable. They are just so unrealistic though! Hospital gowns aren’t flashy or cute, but they are comfortable. The best part of using a hospital gown provided by the hospital is that we don’t have to be the ones to wash them. Those things are going to get some nasty liquids on them post delivery, and honestly no new mom really feels like trying to get the blood, ooze, and spit up out of a gown when she returns home. We will have enough laundry from baby in the weeks and months to come.
We just do not need to create more work for ourselves. No matter what we say, we won’t mind that we’re wearing the standard hospital gown or our bath robe from home in birth pictures.
Spoiler alert: people will be more concerned with baby than our looks. They probably won’t even notice us.
Yes even during pregnancy do we leak some various liquids. We don’t get out that easily. No matter how much we despise panty liners and pads though we should avoid tampons during pregnancy. In fact, it is even advised that we avoid them for the first six weeks minimum following delivery.
Normally tampons just come with the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome. During pregnancy, our body is extra susceptible to infections and tampons can be a pesky little bugger that is known to carry them. While infections are usually mildly serious, during pregnancy they can be pretty serious to our baby. It is especially dangerous since tampons come so close to our uterus, cervix, and other essential body parts that we will need for birth. There have been some studies out there that linked infections caused by tampon use during pregnancy to miscarriage as well. It is just not worth the risk, and there should not be enough liquid coming out of us down there at any point during pregnancy that warrants a tampon instead of a pad or panty liner anyways.
12 Belly Bands
What did women do before the age of the belly band? They likely wore pants without some sad excuse of a folded over tank top used as a means to attempt to hold them up. While belly bands can be used a means to actually support the belly during pregnancy, they have taken on a role in maternity fashion as well.
Instead of just giving in and buying the stretchy maternity pants that we know will be comfortable, there are a few who opt for belly bands and their pre-baby jeans. While it is all fine and dandy that some people only have a growing belly and waistline during pregnancy, a belly band is still going to be seriously lacking when it comes to being an effective means to hold up our pants. There are reasons why jeans come with zippers and buttons, and it isn’t just for style. Not being able to use these two essential parts of our pants will not be mended by an elastic, stretchy circle.
11 Hair Dye
Dying our hair while pregnant has always been controversial. There are women who dye other people’s hair their entire pregnancies as their job, so what’s the harm right? Well, that may be true, those women do wear gloves and aren’t putting chemicals onto their own scalps.
There is not a whole lot of research out there regarding the safety of using hair dye while pregnant. Most believe that little amounts of chemicals reach the baby which they have deemed could be safe, but do we really want to take that risk? Are we being selfish for putting our hair care before our baby’s health? There are few women who can justify a new hair color, root touch up, or high lights when it has the potential to harm their baby.
10 It’s Too Early For Formula
During the first year of life babies always need three things: diapers, wipes, and some type of milk. While we obviously cannot stock up on breastmilk before baby’s arrival, we should not try to stock up on formula either. Honestly, no matter what plan we have for how the baby will be fed, there are just no guarantees. Babies can have allergies or tolerance issues. These often require specific formulas or a special diet. Plus we often won’t know what will work until they actually try it.
Formula also expires so it’s not something we could use for future children if we did buy too much or the wrong brand. Those who do plan on formula feeding often times opt to sign up for free samples from the formula companies themselves or get some from the doctor/hospital. That way there is a lot less waste of product and money if it does not work out for baby.
9 Finger Jewellery
Our bodies change a lot during pregnancy. It isn’t just our bellies, no matter what we do. Our face, feet, and hands often change and swell during pregnancy as a result of water retention and hormone changes. Many women end up not being able to wear their usual rings, including their wedding and engagement rings, by the end of pregnancy.
Normally things go back to how they were after baby, but that is not the case for every woman. Some women have to get rings they have worn for years resized once they have a baby because they no longer fit. The third trimester is when our fingers are most swollen so a ring that fits then likely won’t fit afterward. There aren’t a lot of women who want to spend money on a piece of jewelry that they may not be able to wear again or will need to resize just a few months later.
8 Fancy Bedding For The Crib
Honestly, the only piece of bedding our baby will use in his or her crib for the first six to twelve months of life is a crib sheet. Bumpers have been ruled as dangerous. We do not give a comforter to a baby. So we just need the sheet. There is absolutely no sane reason to spend upwards of $100 on a fancy bedding set when we won’t likely use 2/3 of it at all. By the time baby is old enough for bumpers or a comforter, he or she is likely also ready for a toddler bed.
We get it. Crib bedding is so cute! It looks great in the nursery, and everything has to match. But once the baby actually makes his/her arrival, we will be worried about spit up, sleeping positions, and SIDs instead of how the elephants on the comforter match our nursery theme.
7 Birth Plan Books
No matter how many breathing techniques or natural pain management concepts we read about, it pales in comparison to what we will actually experience in the delivery room. Labor is a natural process, but it differs pretty greatly for every single woman. Heck, it is different for every single pregnancy! While it is great to have some knowledge in our back pocket, labor and delivery are something that we won’t even be all that prepared for even after we have experienced it ourselves.
It is great to have a plan or at least an idea of what we want from our birthing experience and to know how we plan to handle it. No one should cling to that plan though because the baby did not get the memo. Ideally, our main concern should be the health and safety of us and our babies.
6 Tight-Fitting Clothes
After months of maternity wear and sweatpants, it is a dream to think of the days of skinny jeans and cocktail dresses. HA! We aren’t even in spitting distance of those things. Our bodies are still about to go through a pretty big ordeal when we give birth and heal from that and 40 weeks of housing a tiny human.
There is a good chance that once we have that little baby we won’t be so concerned with our wardrobe (at least for a little while). Our milk bags will be far too sensitive and sore to stuff them into anything that requires anything other than a nursing bra. We are going to need a diaper size pad for a few weeks anyway, and let’s be honest that does not belong in skinny jeans.
5 Hold Off On Flying
Most women are advised not to travel at the 36-week mark of pregnancy, but many aren’t advised to go too far from home for the majority of the third trimester. There is the risk of going into labor and being so far from home and our primary doctor. Not many of us want to deal with giving birth in a strange place so far from our home, and then travel back home with a brand new baby.
The third trimester is not a time to travel by plane or any other means that take us far from home. We do not even want to think about buying airline tickets for after baby makes his/her arrival because no matter how nice drinks on a beach sound now; we likely won’t want to be too far away from baby for like the first year.
4 Your Shoe Size Might Change
Any shoes we buy in our third trimester will likely be our pregnancy shoes. There is a good possibility that there won’t be another time that they will fit us. Our feet swell and stretch during pregnancy just like the rest of us. Some women’s feet getting longer, flatter, or wider during pregnancy. This is a result of the many different changes going on during our pregnancy. We put more weight on our feet and ankles than we usually do. Some go back to normal after delivery, but some do not.
There are many women whose feet become a totally different size after delivery. Many women have ruled this a terrible time to buy new shoes. We just do not know the fate of our feet, and it is completely out of our control what size they will be for good once baby is born. Sadly, there is no magic 8 ball or trick to let us know the answers so most women opt to not buy new shoes during pregnancy unless absolutely necessary.
3 Wait For A New Cat
Having a new baby is definitely going to be a HUGE responsibility. Adding a new pet is as well so maybe this just is not a great time to take on so much at once. The baby will be making his/her arrival shortly, and those little furry creatures take some time to adjust to a new environment. Do we really want to shock a pet by bringing a new person into its new home who is going to take up a lot of our attention?
We will hardly have time to train a new pet by the third trimester before the baby comes. We won’t have really gotten to know our pet and their behaviors just yet likely because it is still settling into a new environment. Many families do not realize what a big time commitment and responsibility a pet are and end up rehoming it when a baby makes an arrival despite when they got the pet to begin with.
2 Anything Heavy
Many times pregnant women are given a weight restriction meaning we shouldn’t lift, push, or attempt to move something over that weight limit. First of all, almost every large appliance is going to be over that so if we have to move it ourselves we should seriously wait to buy it until a later time.
Second large appliances often cost a pretty penny. Do we really want to make a big purchase before we get hit with loads of medical bills from pregnancy and delivery? One realistic suggestion would be to wait and see what our budget looks after the baby is born.
Finally, pregnancy brain is a seriously real thing. We are so indecisive and forgetful. Our cravings change in seconds, and that is the perfect example of how our brains seem to function while we are pregnant. This might not be the prime time to make big decisions because we might totally regret it post-partum or would have gone a completely different direction. Pregnancy and our need to nest definitely cloud our judgment.
1 A New Home
Our family is expanding so it is natural to consider expanding our living space. This is not the time to buy a house though. Seriously do not do it. It is stressful, and stress is not something we want to add extra to during a pregnancy. There are all of the logistical issues of selling our current house and buying a new one. That can be completely frustrating, and we kind of have a time limit because we are about to bring home a tiny little baby. We need a place ready for that little bundle of joy to live.
Obviously moving involves the joyful and oh so fun process of packing and unpacking. Most normal people do not like doing that as it is. It will be not fun to do while heavily pregnant or sleep deprived post-baby. Seriously, this could not be a worse time to want to move every item we own.