When a woman is pregnant, it can feel like she is the only responsible for the pregnancy and everything about it. However, that’s not the case. If she has a supportive partner, he can step in and help out right from the beginning to both be a part of the pregnancy and take some stress off the budding mom-to-be.
While mom will have to do the physical work, a supportive partner can help her out in so many ways. As she transitions from one trimester to the next, he can be there to help her deal with the physical and emotional changes, offering support for whatever she’s going through.
A woman’s pregnancy offers the dad-to-be a great chance to learn about taking care of others, just like he will when he’s a dad. It’s true that a pregnant woman is not helpless like an infant, but she will still love support and encouragement from her partner. It will help her during the pregnancy and give her confidence in her man’s skills before the baby arrives.
Doing a few simple things daily keeps dad involved in the pregnancy, connected to mom, and ready to be a father. It will also earn him major points for being a considerate partner with amazing support skills.
20 Check-In Emotionally
These are things dad needs to check with mom about throughout her pregnancy. Ask her daily how she is doing, not just physically but emotionally. This will help her know she has support and can come to her partner when she is worried or scared.
19 Read About The Birth
Birth is not exactly a solo act. Sure, mom will be the one to do the heavy lifting when it comes to actually getting the child into the world, but she will want and need a partner to coach her through birth. That’s why dad needs to know about childbirth, and reading books while mom is pregnant is a great way to learn.
If dad sees mom pick up a book, he should also grab a copy to make sure he is on the same page as mom when it’s time for labor to start. They can discuss different approaches to make sure he will be the best support person possible while mom gives birth.
18 Help With Chores
Mom is going to have days where she is exhausted from growing a person inside of her body. Though dad should always be an equal partner when it comes to chores and housework, he really needs to step up during pregnancy.
Wash the dishes, do the laundry, and mop the floors. Whatever dad can do to take pressure off of mom is a win. This will also ensure that he is used to helping out before the baby arrives and mom is trying to recover from labor. Plus, women love men who do the chores without being asked to or expecting endless praise since women do this every day.
Dad should be armed with knowledge about pregnancy and childbirth so he can talk to mom about coming up with strategies to make pregnancy easy for her. However, sometimes he just needs to listen.
When mom is venting or discussing issues or feelings she is having, dad doesn’t always need to be in fixer mode. Sometimes mom just wants him to lend an ear so she can say what she needs to and have someone supportive listening. If dad isn’t sure whether it’s a fixing or a listening time, he can simply ask mom what she needs at that moment.
16 Ask About Appointments
Dad needs to know when mom is going to the doctor so he can ask follow-up questions about how things went. Mom will hear the baby’s heartbeat, receive sonograms, and get stomach measurements at many appointments, and all of this is exciting for moms. They want to share this excitement with their partners, and they want to know that dad is interested.
15 Express Emotions
Dad doesn’t have to be a robot in order to offer mom support. He can be a supportive partner while still expressing emotions and talking about how he feels. In fact, mom wants to know that dad has feelings about the upcoming birth of his child.
Dad should talk to mom about the excitement, fear, and happiness he feels. This keeps the bond between mom and dad strong, and it also gives mom permission to talk about her own emotions. This is an important skill to practice before the baby arrives and mom and dad are figuring out how to raise a baby together.
14 Tell Her She’s Beautiful
Pregnancy can make women very insecure about appearance. Between the acne that sometimes comes with the first trimester to the weight gain that happens throughout, pregnancy is not always a time that mom feels she looks her best. Add stretch marks and swollen ankles and many women feel like they don’t even recognize their bodies.
That’s why dad telling mom she is beautiful every day goes a long way in helping her cope with all the changes. A sincere compliment reminds her that her partner still finds her attractive and she shouldn’t worry about the changes. It’s an important message for her during this time of change.
13 Ask About Vitamins
Nobody wants to be a nag, but it’s not a bad idea for mom’s partner to ask her if she’s taken her prenatal vitamins each day. The feeling of mommy brain, where women claim they can’t remember to perform basic tasks because the baby is stealing all their brain power, starts during pregnancy. That means mom may forget her prenatal vitamins, an oversight that can be bad for her and the baby.
Prenatal vitamins help with a baby’s development, and they help mom stay full of necessary nutrients while her body is handing over almost everything to the baby. Gently ask her if she’s taken her prenatal vitamins so she’ll know she has someone looking out for her and the little one.
12 Offer A Massage
If dad wants to be the best partner ever, he should give mom daily massages starting the minute she sees a positive sign on the pregnancy test. It’s hard work to grow a person, and mom will have aches and pains she’s never dealt with before while pregnant. Dad can help her feel so much better by massaging her back and feet before bed.
This kind of care also keeps mom and dad in physical contact with each other during a time mom might not be feeling that attractive. These nightly massages are a wonderful way to keep the spark alive and give mom’s muscles a treat.
11 Offer Affection
There are men who find pregnant women attractive and men who absolutely don’t. It doesn’t matter which one you are, show affection to your wife while she is pregnant. Pulling away physically makes her feel shunned and unloved, and it can affect the relationship for the long haul.
Give mom hugs, hold her hand, and cuddle with her regularly so she knows that you’re on board with the pregnancy and the changes going on with her body. Some women even have an increased sexual desire while pregnant, so dad’s affection may be returned with some extra lovin’. It’s worth a try.
10 Join Her Habits
Pregnant women deal with a ton of restrictions, and it’s recommended they perform certain tasks daily to help the pregnancy go smoothly. In-between all the things they can’t do and all the things they should do, it can be difficult to adjust to the changes. That’s why it means so much if dad joins in mom’s habits while she’s pregnant.
When mom gives up alcohol, dad should also. If mom can’t eat a certain food, dad shouldn’t eat it either. When mom takes her nightly walk to get exercise, dad should join. This helps both partners see that parenting is a partnership that starts the minute mom finds out she is pregnant.
9 Prepare The Nursery
There’s a lot to do before the baby arrives, and it’s great when dad prepares the house early. Mom is working to grow the baby, so dad can work to make sure the house is ready by putting together the crib and making any necessary changes that need to take place so a baby can live in the house.
Of course, mom can help with this, and she will likely want to. It’s just important that all the preparations don’t fall on her alone since she is going to be tired and somewhat overwhelmed with the pregnancy. Dad taking the lead in this area gives mom one less thing to check off her list.
8 Be Patient
Pregnancy hormones are hard to manage, and the decisions mom has to make seem never ending when she is pregnant. She will be trying to decide how she wants to birth, what to name the baby, and a million other important details. Dad needs to give her time and not get frustrated if she changes her mind often or is stressed.
7 Make Meals
Make mom a meal each day, whether it’s breakfast, lunch, or dinner. Make sure it’s well balanced and doesn’t contain any foods she should avoid, like unpasteurized dairy products or cold lunch meats. This kind act will help mom relax and be nourished by her partner each day.
6 Tidy Up
At some point, it will likely be hard for mom to even bend over to put on socks. That’s why it’s great when dad picks up around the house and helps mom out during the pregnancy. Even before she can’t bend over, she may not feel like tidying up due to morning sickness or exhaustion.
An uncluttered living space does a lot to alleviate stress, so dad taking the lead in this area can save trouble down the road. Keep the basics done for mom and she’s less likely to get overwhelmed or trip over things that were left out.
5 Avoid Rude Comments
Don’t poke fun at mom’s increasing weight or her pregnancy waddle. Some women might take the jokes in stride, but many feel super sensitive while pregnant and don’t find these comments funny. They hurt and can lead to fights that dad could have avoided.
4 Don’t Compare To Other Women
It’s never a good idea to compare your partner with another woman. It’s especially stupid if she’s pregnant. Saying that someone else’s wife didn’t gain as much weight or didn’t complain as much while pregnant is a sure way to see lots of tears and hear plenty of yelling.
Pregnancy is different for every woman, and the women who have hard pregnancies don’t ask for them to be that way. The last thing they need is for their husbands to compare their experiences to other people’s experiences and find them wanting. It adds insult to injury and will not strengthen the bond between mom and dad.
3 Support The Body Pillow
No matter how much mom likes to spoon, at some point during pregnancy there is going to be something in the bed that she loves more than dad: her body pillow. It’s soft, pliable, and the perfect shape for mom’s pregnant body. She will embrace it fully around the second trimester and never look back.
Dad doesn’t need to take this personally. Instead, embrace the body pillow and how much it helps mom get quality sleep with less back pain. There’s no point in being jealous because mom won’t be able to sleep without it. Just be a good sport and make room.
2 Run Her A Bath
At the end of a long day, it feels great to recline in a nice, warm bath. What’s even nicer is if someone else has run that bath and pampered mom. Make sure the water isn’t too warm and that mom has everything she needs, like her washcloths and soaps.
Light some candles and set a relaxing tone for the bath for bonus points. Mom will not get tired of having dad do this for her because it is so considerate and romantic. It’s a small thing that has big benefits because it makes mom feel spoiled and cared for during a time when she may be experiencing stress and uncertainty.