No period of time takes longer to pass than the ten minutes a woman spends waiting for the stick to show — or not show — a pink line. The stress of this is equal only to the pressure of squinting at the little window and trying to decide if that is a line or not.
Along with the tension of this process, there is the additional fact that you may have a raging hormone monster charging through your body. To further stoke your anxiety are the facts that you’ve probably been lying awake all night wondering if you are pregnant or not, and trawling the internet to find out if it is too early to do a test yet. It’s no wonder your reactions to the result might be a little left of center.
Everyone has different circumstances, so it will come as no surprise that someone who is not thrilled to find out their test is positive will not be reacting in the same way as the woman who had no strong feelings either way. Even if you have been trying for a baby and are desperate for a bun in the oven, the knowledge that you are finally pregnant is a life changer that can make you react in funny ways. But no matter which side you fall on, don’t worry — you are not alone!
Here are 20 women who shared the first thoughts that crossed their mind when they saw that pink line slowly appear in the window.
20 Where’s The UPS Guy?
Luckily Sonia held back and didn’t share the news of her pregnancy with the delivery guy before telling her husband. THAT could have taken some explaining.
“My first feeling was excitement quickly followed by the worry I could be reading the test wrong. I sat on the edge of the bathtub wondering who I could go and show the test too. I was so desperate for it to be true and so worried I was wrong that when the UPS guy came to the door with a delivery, I seriously thought about showing him the test stick and asking if I was pregnant or not.”
19 Oh Goodie, Cravings
Anna shared how she reacted after she found out she was pregnant after almost half a year of trying:
“We had been trying for a baby for five months, and I was beginning to think we would have to go and see a doctor about me no getting pregnant yet. I couldn’t wait to have a big round belly. I had looked at maternity clothes in the mall and read everything I could about how to have a healthy pregnancy. I couldn’t wait for the ‘pregnancy glow.’ I was almost jumping up and down, and when the plus showed up in the window the first thing I thought, I don’t know why was ‘I wonder what cravings I’ll have.”
18 I’m Every Woman
Many women have their female identity tied tightly to their ability, to become pregnant and to carry a baby to term. The pain of not being unable to conceive at all, or only becoming pregnant with intervention, is not just about wanting a baby. For some women, it is also about being what they consider a “real” woman.
“My first thought was ‘I am a real woman after all.’ Because doctors told us we would never have a child it was closely followed by a smug ‘I knew I could do it’ I had never felt so womanly,” admitted Raiza.
17 Uncomfortably Numb
Ashley told us how she was already depressed before she found out about her pregnancy and when her test turned positive, she just felt numb and empty.
“I kind of knew the test was going to be positive because my periods were very regular and I had never been a day late, and I was four days late. The baby’s dad didn’t know I thought I might be pregnant and I didn’t want to tell him, so I was on my own for the test. My first thought was that I didn’t want the baby and didn’t want to tell the dad because he would be happy and I wasn’t.”
16 Goodbye Office
There are so many elements of your pregnancy; it is no wonder that something random might be the first thing o come to mind. Mos people want to share with their partner or another person they are close to, but not Racheal from Washington. She told us:
“Me and my husband had agreed that we both wanted me to stay at home with our children when we had them so I was never really that into my job and I didn’t like my boss very much. I bought a test on the way to work and did it in the office washroom. As soon as I saw I was pregnant, my first thought was ‘yeah, I can quit my job’ I almost did it there and then.”
15 What Will I Get?
It is not just moms who have definite plans who have wild and wacky thoughts. Sometimes those reactions can come from nowhere, and even afterward we don’t know why they happened. Anika shared:
“I hadn’t thought about if we would have a boy or a girl. We already had one of each, and it hadn’t bothered me in my previous pregnancies. That was why it was so freaky when I sat there and burst into tears because I suddenly thought I didn’t want another baby boy. I got all stressed out and hyperventilated because I thought if I had a boy I wouldn’t love him.”
14 Can’t Hold On
Carolyn was on her first round of IVF. Technically speaking, once her two embryos had been implanted, but the couple had to wait two weeks to make sure the embryos would “take.” Carolyn told HealthTalk.org :
“I actually did the pregnancy test at 3 o’clock in the morning because I had decided that, really, what could be the difference who, who defines at what point that 14th day begins? Does it begin at 6am; does it begin at 3am? I was unable to sleep anyway, so I just sat up in bed and then eventually did the test at 3 am. My husband and I sat in our beds crying until 6 am when we felt it was a reasonable hour to start phoning the family, at which point they all said, ‘thank goodness you phoned us, now we can go to bed.”
13 One Word: Stunned
“I just wasn’t expecting it. I only [did the deed] once in the previous weeks, and I was on the pill. It hadn’t occurred to me that being pregnant was even a possibility and I only took the test to show my sister how stupid her theory that I was pregnant was.”
The first time, single mom for Seattle told us she wandered around in a fog for days afterward, but she is now looking forward to the birth of her baby boy.
12 Prepared For Disappointmen
Hannah had suffered from polycystic ovary syndrome and had become pregnant after taking Clomid. Her first reaction was to tell people close to her, not because she wanted to share her excitement but because she was afraid she would miscarry.
“We knew that there was a high chance that I might miscarry, and we’re both quite close to our family, and we thought it would be an awful lot to expect them to support us, if they didn’t know that I was pregnant, you know, to phone up one day and say, you know “Mum, I’ve had a miscarriage, oh and by the way, I was pregnant, briefly”. Because they – all the family had known what we were going through.”
For some people trying to have a baby, it is all about waiting to see and letting nature take its course. Others approach it with a loose plan and then there are those that diligently plan and vigorously pursue their pregnancy goal with the same laser focus they apply to the rest of their life. Alyssa definitely fell into the final group and never doubted she would be successful.
“I knew immediately. I was trying to get pregnant. So when I realized I was ovulating, I invited my partner over to “hang out” with me for five minutes. Then, I took a test on day 28. Boom! Knocked up! Mission accomplished.”
10 A Huge Side Order Of Guilt
On some occasions, a woman’s first thought is not about herself or her baby, but about someone else in her life who might be affected by her big news. One such woman is Kelsey who is single and fell pregnant by accident. She is happy about the baby but dreads telling her married sister who has been trying unsuccessfully for seven years to become pregnant.
“The first thing I thought was ‘how am I going to tell Kaitlyn, she’s going to be devastated, she’ll hate me,’ and I burst into tears.
9 Should I be Allowed A Baby?
Chelsea had never really thought about having a baby. She was still at the stage in her life when pregnancy was something that might happen in the future when she had lived a bit and enjoyed life a little more. The barista from New York is in a stable relationship with the father of her baby, even though they had only been seeing each other five weeks when she fell pregnant.
“It seemed amazing to me that I should be ‘allowed’ to have a baby, that someone out there in charge of the universe had thought it was safe to let me bring up another person.”
8 I Already Know You
For some moms, there is a tsunami of love, hanging mid-air, poised and waiting to rush in and swamp them.
“I had already taken two tests. I took one test the week before, and I thought it was positive but my sister said she couldn’t see anything and I should try another one in a week or so and that I shouldn’t get my hopes up. I took another test three days later ‘cos I couldn’t wait, and it was the same. The day I took the third test, and it was positive I was rubbing my belly telling my baby I loved her already.”
7 OK Life, Enough Already
“When I thought I might be pregnant I was nearing the end of my business degree program, I had loads of exams, I’d just been told the house I was living in was getting sold, and I had found out my boyfriend was sleeping with someone I thought was my friend.”
She continued, “It was like the universe was trying to dump on me. I was under such a pile of pressure. I thought I might be pregnant, but I hoped I wasn’t and tried to ignore it. My friend made me take the test, and when I found out I thought I would be upset but I was so resigned to it by then I thought ‘oh well’ and promptly ignored it again because it was too much.”
6 Bring On The Sweater Puppies
While one mom-to-be might be worried about how pregnancy might affect her body another might be thrilled by all of the changes that are about to happen. You are probably assuming that most of the excited thoughts are about a big swollen belly and some are, but other newly minted moms-to-be have a very different reason to look forward to the effects of all of those hormones.
“I was always very flat chested, and I wasn’t unhappy about it but when the doctor told me ‘congratulations, you are going to have a baby, the first thing I thought of was how I might get the chance to see what it’s like to have an actual pair of boobs.”
5 Sorry Not Sorry
Not everyone is happy to be pregnant and of those people who are not some go to a very dark place indeed.
“My doctor had told me I wasn’t pregnant, and it was a relief, but I was still worried that I was right and he was wrong. When I still wasn’t on my period two weeks later, I went back and told him I wanted another test. This one was positive, and I was so angry at my doctor because I wanted to have an abortion and my first thought was I could have had it two weeks earlier.”
4 Lucky, It’s Just A Baby
Erika shared: “I went to see my doctor because my periods had started to go all over the place. I went from roughly every 28 days to it being a couple of big gaps between periods. The periods I did have were lighter than I was used to but who’s going to complain about that?”
“Because I am 45 I was worried I might be going through the menopause and I didn’t think I was ready. When the doctor said, I should do a pregnancy test it was the first time it had crossed my mind. When she said I was pregnant all I felt was relieved I wasn’t getting that old.”
3 Not Funny Ha Ha
Personally, I am one of those people who laugh when they get nervous. If you are waiting to go on stage and give an amusing speech about parenthood, this is not an issue. When you have to stand up and give a eulogy at a funeral, it is a lot more difficult to explain, and people think you are quite mad. At least I am not the only nervous giggler.
Sarah of Florida told us “I saw the positive result and started laughing. I remember thinking that it was a good job I had just had a pee and that I was sitting in the washroom because I might otherwise wet myself because of my nervous laughter.”
2 Unexpected Feelings Of Joy
Kiera told us: “I wasn’t unhappy when I first thought I was pregnant but I wasn’t exactly happy either. The more we spoke about it, the more my husband got excited and the more excited he became, the less I wanted to be having a baby.”
“When we sat there waiting for the test result, he was like a kid on Christmas morning, and I wanted to smack him round the face. When the timer went off on my phone, I looked at the test and saw it was positive. I was suddenly so happy I could explode. We were both, literally jumping up and down and screaming and shouting. it was crazy but crazy good.”